Big masturbation mistakes women make

The art of female masturbation is one that requires a lot more than simply getting it on. Some women have expressed concerns that they have not been able to achieve orgasm or even intense pleasure during masturbation or sexual intercourse.

However, if this sounds like you, here are three big mistakes you may be making:

1. You try too hard

If you are feeling pressured to achieve orgasm, the less likely you are to experience it. After all, masturbation should be first and foremost about pleasure rather than getting to orgasm as fast as possible. Giving yourself permission to enjoy the moment rather than feeling like every moment not spent 'orgasming' is a failure will actually make an orgasm more likely to happen. Try not to think about the end goal, and rather focus on just touching yourself in a way that feels good.

2. You do not give yourself consent

Unfortunately, the taboo surrounding masturbation, particularly female masturbation, dates back centuries. While we might be a lot more accepting of these things, if you're having trouble masturbating, it could be because you're still harboring some kind of guilt. If you're not giving yourself permission to touch yourself, then how else are you going to know how you like to be touched?

3. Your sexuality depends on a man

Because masturbation is something some women don't feel they are "allowed" to do, it's possible they're placing the responsibility of their orgasm solely on their partner. If you've always relied on other people to get off then your orgasm belongs to somebody else. While this is a totally understandable place to be in, if you really want to get it on solo, you have to push your partner out of your mind and explore your own sexuality. There's only one way to learn about your sexuality, and that's to dive right in. Try looking at photos, reading erotica, watching porn, whatever makes you feel sexy.