A desired marriage is not complete
without adequate plan for a better and fulfilled sex life. Sex remains a
potent tool for a lasting relationship among couples. A good sex life,
no doubt, will certainly help prepare couples to face challenges.
So, it is absolutely important for
partners planning to spend the rest of their lives together to also
plan, prepare and advocate for good sexual relationship in their
upcoming union.
As much as many intending partners do
not believe in premarital sex, it is still noteworthy to have basic
information about fulfilling sex life with the person you are going to
spend the rest of your life with.
For couples who have been married for a
while and who may notice that their sex lives have taken a dip, they
can still work it out and be able to make love to the same partner for
the rest of their lives and still love it.
The number one major tool is that you
should not take for granted, your partner’s personal sexual information.
Then again, do not take for granted, the act of rediscovering
opportunities to revive the magic that once kept your hearts fluttering
with joy.
I love to inform all intending and
established couples that when it comes to having the best of sex all
through their marital lives, bear in mind that what works for Mr. Jones
may not work for Mr. John. There is a need to be able to know at your
finger tips, what your spouse loves when it comes to sex; it matters a
lot and this cannot be over-emphasised.
So, one thing that should be constant in
your pursuit of happiness in sex is to always ask your partner what
he/she likes sexually. To you, what your partner loves may appear
monotonous but please give it to him/her. If the person’s orgasmic
arousal peak point of desire is not fed by their lawful partner, could
become a weak point for infidelity.
The next step is to always think up how
you can make sex hot. Please never undermine the fact that the hotter
the passion, the better the sex for all human beings regardless of the
person’s temperament.
There are different ways to tell your
spouse how much you enjoy making love with him or her. Sometimes, the
way you talk about sex or demand for it; the way you respond to your
spouse’s advances or the things you do to your body in order to look
good, could go a long way to keep the passion in your relationship hot
and sizzling.
When there is a mutual desire to jump
into each other’s arms, couples would always be willing to go the extra
mile to see and ensure that they both have the best of sex.
Flirting with your spouse could spice
your sex life. As the wife, you should form a habit of flirting with
your husband all the time. When you put on your alluring airs, you will
be indirectly telling your husband that you are always interested in his
sexual prowess. Men often react positively to this kind of attitude.
That is why you still see them glance at other ladies while you are
right beside them. Flirting lures any man regardless of his societal
statue; never forget that.
The looks you give your spouse speak
volumes; seductive glances generate sexual energy. Seductive attire and
dressing to kill could get your husband fired up sexually, even though
he may pretend initially not to notice.
Any woman that is serious about making
love to the same man for the rest of her life and still want to enjoy it
ought to keep a sexy kit handy and make sure that all the items are
available anytime, anywhere and at strategic points including the car,
kitchen, and bed-side drawers.
Men are habitually under sexual
pressure. It does not matter whether you are newlywed, nursing mother,
or menopausal wife. What matters is that you must treat the nuptial bed
like a bona fide business or make it one. You can even be a little
mysterious sexually. The fact is that if a wife arouses her husband’s
curiosity, it is guaranteed that the man would always be back again and
again against all odds. Statistically, an average man gets bored easily
sexually. Voice your sexual fantasy and experiment it on him.
Now husband, please turn your wife into
your ideal sex girl. Men have a catalogue of sexual imaginations and the
best way to relive these scenarios is when shared with your wife.
Experts say all living beings have
sexual fantasies, in which an individual imagines himself/herself
enjoying erotic moments with his or her spouse in strange places at
strange times with strange postures and positions. Sharing sexual
fantasies with your partners is a way of heightening and intensifying
erotic potential by showing your spouse possibilities that he or she has
never considered before. In turn, this would open the door to a
lifetime of sexual ecstasy.
Most times, spouses underestimate how
powerful they become if they can fulfil their partners’ unrequited
sexual fantasies. The point is that if your spouse has been dreaming
about something all of his/her life and then you help make it a reality
for him/her, there are chances that you will definitely inspire him/her
to display incredible loyalty and devotion to you. The advantage of
these fantasies is that they give room to unpredictability and
impulsiveness that create fun, excitement and expectations; which in
turn, eliminate boredom. Before you know it, you would be actually
making love to the same spouse and loving it.
To the wives out there, I would suggest
that you should always find a way of seductively revealing your nipples
and clitoris to your husband all the time. They should be well-packaged,
seasoned and strategically located in a manner that it would become
extremely irresistible for him not to glance, look and not want to touch
and be charmed by them. Make giving your spouse great sex a priority.
This is like pledging your eternal allegiance to him or her. Although
most men dislike longish foreplay; husbands, I need you to know that
when you are aware of the fact that control is essential during
lovemaking and that most women (including your wife), think wonderful
sex should be full of slow foreplay, you just got yourself a life-long
sex partner. Remember that the best sex lasts between 13 to 25 minutes.
According to a study published in a journal, medical researchers who
surveyed peoples’ bedroom preferences say two to five minutes is too
short, seven to 20 minutes is acceptable and 30 minutes and above may
be unattainable by some.
With a good future sex planning, you can
determine how to work your way around this timing and live a life of
continual sexual escapades. It is attainable!
Funmi Akingbade
Source: Punch