The art of female masturbation is
one that requires a lot more than simply getting it on. Some women have
expressed concerns that they have not been able to achieve orgasm or
even intense pleasure during masturbation or sexual intercourse.
However, if this sounds like you, here are three big mistakes you may be making:
1. You try too hard
If you are feeling pressured to achieve orgasm, the
less likely you are to experience it. After all, masturbation should be
first and foremost about pleasure rather than getting to orgasm as fast
as possible. Giving yourself permission to enjoy the moment rather than
feeling like every moment not spent 'orgasming' is a failure will actually
make an orgasm more likely to happen. Try not to think about the end
goal, and rather focus on just touching yourself in a way that feels
good.
2. You do not give yourself consent
Unfortunately, the taboo surrounding masturbation,
particularly female masturbation, dates back centuries. While we might
be a lot more accepting of these things, if you're having trouble
masturbating, it could be because you're still harboring some kind of
guilt. If you're not giving yourself permission to touch yourself, then
how else are you going to know how you like to be touched?
3. Your sexuality depends on a man
Because masturbation is something some women don't
feel they are "allowed" to do, it's possible they're placing the
responsibility of their orgasm solely on their partner. If you've always
relied on other people to get off then your orgasm belongs to somebody
else. While this is a totally understandable place to be in, if you
really want to get it on solo, you have to push your partner out of your
mind and explore your own sexuality. There's only one way to
learn about your sexuality, and that's to dive right in. Try looking at
photos, reading erotica, watching porn, whatever makes you feel sexy.