Men who ejaculate 21 times a month could reduce their risk of prostate cancer by a third

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A new study from Harvard University has found that men who ejaculate 21 or more times a month could reduce their prostate cancer risk by a third.

Big masturbation mistakes women make

The art of female masturbation is one that requires a lot more than simply getting it on. Some women have expressed concerns that they have not been able to achieve orgasm or even intense pleasure during masturbation or sexual intercourse.

However, if this sounds like you, here are three big mistakes you may be making:

1. You try too hard

If you are feeling pressured to achieve orgasm, the less likely you are to experience it. After all, masturbation should be first and foremost about pleasure rather than getting to orgasm as fast as possible. Giving yourself permission to enjoy the moment rather than feeling like every moment not spent 'orgasming' is a failure will actually make an orgasm more likely to happen. Try not to think about the end goal, and rather focus on just touching yourself in a way that feels good.

2. You do not give yourself consent

Unfortunately, the taboo surrounding masturbation, particularly female masturbation, dates back centuries. While we might be a lot more accepting of these things, if you're having trouble masturbating, it could be because you're still harboring some kind of guilt. If you're not giving yourself permission to touch yourself, then how else are you going to know how you like to be touched?

3. Your sexuality depends on a man

Because masturbation is something some women don't feel they are "allowed" to do, it's possible they're placing the responsibility of their orgasm solely on their partner. If you've always relied on other people to get off then your orgasm belongs to somebody else. While this is a totally understandable place to be in, if you really want to get it on solo, you have to push your partner out of your mind and explore your own sexuality. There's only one way to learn about your sexuality, and that's to dive right in. Try looking at photos, reading erotica, watching porn, whatever makes you feel sexy.

Amber Rose: "I masturbate once a day" - Model says

Amber Rose has revealed that she is just as normal as the next girl, especially when it comes to masturbating.

  Amber Rose on GQ

Model revealed that her fans would be shocked by just how normal she really is with everyday routines like the next person.

Although many find it hard to believe that the originator of Slut Walk does not have casual sex, they were mostly relieved to discover that she engaged in the not so random self pleasure.

"I feel like I’m just such a nerd in the bedroom.’people are shocked ‘even when I say I don’t have casual sex. People really think that I have orgies all day and I do, like, these crazy sex acts - I’m really just a normal girl,’I masturbate all the time. I masturbate at least once a day."

She adds with a smile: "That’s why my skin looks so flawless."

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Amber also disclosed that most men she came in contact with were scared of her.

"Men are so scared of me. I literally will go out on a date, and a guy's like this,’ she said, holding up a trembling hand.They're f**king scared of me — they're terrified of me.

"You know what guys say to me? "What can I do for you that you can't do for yourself?” And I'm like, “If you go to the store and get a $1.50 card and write something nice in it, I would."

For Men: Five reasons to masturbate tonight

Regular sex or masturbation works out your pelvic floor muscles to prevent erectile dysfunction and incontinence.

Masturbation perks

There is nothing wrong in taking a little time to love yourself. Not only does it feel really, really good, it also has awesome benefits that you get long after your explosive climax.
Menshealth gives all men 5 reasons to give themselves a hand.

It prevents cancer.

A study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer.
Disease-causing toxins build up in your urogenital tract and when you rub one out, you flush the bad guys out of your system.

It makes you harder.

As you age, you naturally lose muscle tone ... even down there.
Regular sex or masturbation works out your pelvic floor muscles to prevent erectile dysfunction and incontinence.
Aim to (ahem) arrive three to five times a week for rock-solid results.

It helps you last longer.

Taking yourself to palm prom may help you stretch your sack sessions.
“[Masturbating] an hour before a date will give you more control. Train yourself by timing how long it takes you to orgasm. If it usually takes two minutes solo, try for three next time. Or count how many strokes you need to get to your happy place. If you’re spurting after 50, shoot for 60. Most men can double the number of strokes and the time within one month.
READ: Six signs you have a serious sexual problem

It ups your immunity.

Ejaculation increases levels of the hormone cortisol. Cortisol, which usually gets a bad rap as a havoc-wrecking stress hormone, actually helps regulate and maintain your immunity in the small doses. Masturbation can produce the right environment for a strengthened immune system.

It boosts your mood.

Masturbating releases a slew of feel-good neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin that lift your spirits, boost your satisfaction, and activate the reward circuits in your brain.
“An orgasm is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available,” says Brame. “A brain scan of someone having an orgasm looks like a heroin addict’s.”

Female masturbation: what you need to know

In this post, Dr Margaret Redelman, doctor and medical sex therapist busts some of the common myths about female masturbation and assures our readers that it isn’t just a male activity:

Despite the fact that it’s considered biologically abnormal, the truth is that masturbation is a very common activity in both humans and animals. Sadly, many people who masturbate feel ashamed or embarrassed about it. Many wrongly believe that masturbation is deviant, dangerous and sinful. It is not any of these things!

Simply speaking, it involves the sexual stimulation of the genitals usually to the point of orgasm and can be solo, parallel or mutual with a partner. While people mostly masturbate using their hands and fingers there are an infinite number of ways in which people learn to give themselves sexual pleasure, arousal and orgasm. For example, rubbing the genitals with clothing, rubbing against other surfaces such as bedding and using specially designed toys like vibrators and dildos.

The difference between masturbation and lovemaking

Masturbation and lovemaking with a partner are two separate activities. With masturbation we only have to consider ourselves and most people who do it are very good at knowing exactly what to do to bring themselves to orgasm. However, masturbation does not kiss or cuddle you, or tell you that you are beautiful and wonderful. Some people think only people without partners or unsatisfactory sex lives indulge in it. This is not always true. While it is a normal healthy way to meet one’s own sexual needs when without a partner, it can also meet needs in a good relationship when there is a desire difference between the couple, they are separated for various reasons or one partner is sick and not able to participate in lovemaking. There are no negative medical consequences at all.

Myths about masturbation

The myths associated with it are very misleading as they are usually picked up sub-consciously through innuendo and jokes and are not ever scientifically verified. Some myths claim that masturbation:

• Can cause blindness or colour blindness
• Can cause hair to grow on the palm of the hand
• You can run out of orgasms (i.e. using up sexual reserve)
• Can cause mental health problems and craziness
• Excessive masturbation can cause decreased sexual stamina
• Can cause fatigue and tiredness

Many people worry about masturbating too much. There is no right number of times to masturbate or to have sexual activity. The right number is what makes you happy and works for the relationship.

It is important that women rinse their genitals with water once a day, wipe themselves from front to back after using the toilet, wash their hands before touching their genitals and always use a lubricant when masturbating. There is no natural lubrication on the external genitals and around the clitoris so rubbing with fingers or anything else can cause friction and irritation, and predispose to infections. Saliva, oil and water-based lubricants are all good. 

There are many general health benefits to masturbation such as release of feelings of physical and mental wellbeing through release of brain chemicals called endorphins, decrease in stress and blood pressure, enhancing sleep, and possibly improving immunity. And of course there are very definite sexual benefits to masturbation such as: 

• Becoming more comfortable with one’s body
• A way for women to find out what makes them orgasm so they can share it with their partner
• Have the ability to meet one’s own sexual needs without a partner
• There is no risk of sexually transmissible infection or unplanned pregnancy
• Free, unlimited, pleasurable and fun
• It can be a very enjoyable intimate activity for couples who don’t want to, are not able to or don’t feel ready for intercourse

Sexologists advise masturbation as a learning step for women who have not yet learned to have orgasms. Solo masturbation gives the privacy, security and unlimited time in an unpressured space which allows a woman to learn about her very special individual sexual arousal and orgasm response pattern.

Masturbation attitudes are learned early in life and a parent’s own sexual beliefs and responses to a child’s early sexual touching and questions are very important. Think about what you would have preferred in your own childhood learning about your body and sexuality and think about creating a positive sexual environment for your children. It is important to teach children that their bodies are beautiful, that they belong to them, that their genitals are lovely areas of the body that can give a lot of pleasure but need to be treated with care and respect. The belief that masturbation is a private enjoyable activity should be reinforced.